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Hi Streamers!

I'm here for a bit this morning catching up on some work, but still busy as a bee.

I found out Tuesday just before leaving for cheer camp that Tay had 2 softball games back-to-back starting at 6:00. I left the gym for cheer about 5:00, ran home to freshen up, & off to the ball field - getting there just in time. They're doing really well & won both games! I think we'll have a really good team again next year too. We only lost 2 (very good ones!) to graduation, so that helps too.

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Today is the last day of our cheer camp & we've got a LOT to do in a short time. They've pretty much learned their half-time dance part of the show. Today will be going over that some, & learning the cheer immediately following the dance. The cheer has building in it, so we've got our work cut out for us. I can't have my "flyers" falling & getting hurt, so we'll focus on the ones who raise & hold them up a lot. We'll have from 2:30 until 4:00 to learn this part. At 4:00, the parents will be allowed to come in to watch each of the 3 squads perform their routines & video tape them, if they want. Prayers please!

This is "building". The one they raise up is the "flyer":


My "special" girl isn't doing much of anything except for hanging on or standing right up under a few of the other girls, disrupting us, & trying to eat her water bottle lid! **double sigh** Her mother did show up for Tuesday & she was shocked at what the other's have already learned in 2 1/2 hours. Her daughter was...doing what she does...& her mother started yelling at her. Then some tears fell. Poor girl. I'm prepared to pull her, if needed, but her mother promises she'll have it by the first game (mid-August). I just don't know.... Her mother has to learn it all too so she can help her. She is required to be at every practice, game, etc to tend with her daughter. Oh, she has Williams Syndrome. It's similar to Downs, I hear.

I've got my line-up fixed so that I can pull her out, if needed, & only have to move 2 girls over a bit. She might be holding a sign (which she'll probably tear up & eat!), but at least she'd be participating as best as she's able. I'm definitely going to have to do this while they build so she won't knock or pull someone down.

Her mother was told before try-outs that this is hard work, takes coordination, & is not one-on-one teaching. By the time they get to B team, they're supposed to already know the basics & what they're doing. She knows nothing. I feel so bad as she's a sweet girl, but I'm not equipped to deal with such. One of my mother's works at the local Cerebral Palsy center & will help me with her too. She's used to this & knows how to handle them.

I'll start having practice twice a week starting next week every Monday & Thursday evening. That'll help them to get better each week, & not forget any of what they're learning.

Anyhoo, I'll try to catch up on everyone's blogs starting next week. I miss being here with you all.

**group hug**
Posted by Secret at 11:39 AM - 27 Comments   Add a Comment  
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Say! Why dont you add a flaming knife juggling bit into the routine?

It would be boffo!


Just have the parents sign the waiver!

CYA!

I'm just saying!
 
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by Randy (PM , CC ) on Thursday June 19, 2008 @ 12:30 PM




Um...yeah, Randy. I'll do just that!  
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by Secret (PM , CC ) on Thursday June 19, 2008 @ 12:32 PM




Secret I feel for this special little girl. She probably wants most of all to just fit in and have fun. Her mother probably wants the same thing for her daughter yet yelling at her is not helping anything. Love, patience and understanding does wonders in these situations. Maybe she can have a part in the cheering that is just right for her. Maybe shaking pom poms on the side or waving a small flag while being able to accomplish one simple cheer to make her feel part of the group? I'm cheering for her to wanting to make the effort!

Bear Hugs!
PolarB ;)
 
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by PolarB (PM , CC ) on Thursday June 19, 2008 @ 12:44 PM




I know, Polar. I feel sorry for her, & no, her mother didn't need to be yelling at her.

I'll find somewhere for her to be, if she can't learn the routine. She won't be left out, for sure.

Thanks!
 
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by Secret (PM , CC ) on Thursday June 19, 2008 @ 12:45 PM




Lot of hard work! And lots of patience on YOUR part! Take care!  
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by HeatherScot (PM , CC ) on Thursday June 19, 2008 @ 4:26 PM




Hiya Heather. Patience is so right, but we're having fun. Most of the girls cheered last year & they know the work involved. I only have 2 that never have before. I can tell they've "grown" since last year too - which is good for me.

Have a great weekend!
 
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by Secret (PM , CC ) on Friday June 20, 2008 @ 12:12 PM




Dang Secret...You are a busy woman. Sounds like you need a secretary.  
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by ^BELLE^ (PM , CC ) on Friday June 20, 2008 @ 12:31 PM




I DO, Belle! Are you applying?  
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by Secret (PM , CC ) on Friday June 20, 2008 @ 12:32 PM




You know what...I would love to, but between being the official and ONLY babysitter for the GRANDS, The Yankee, trying to get stopped by Trooper Cutie Patootie ,not to mention the chaos in my life....I wouldn't have time.  
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by ^BELLE^ (PM , CC ) on Friday June 20, 2008 @ 12:35 PM




Why don't you ask Trooper Cutie Patootie just how fast you need to go for him to pull you over & frisk you!!  
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by Secret (PM , CC ) on Friday June 20, 2008 @ 12:37 PM




I told my son in law to tell him, if he pulls me over again, I'll show him my tattoo.
 
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by ^BELLE^ (PM , CC ) on Friday June 20, 2008 @ 12:47 PM




Its never easy.
It seems mom is pushing her outside of her limits
 
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by Whispered Promise (PM , CC ) on Friday June 20, 2008 @ 5:18 PM




Patience is the key when working with a special needs child. Remember that she cannot help the way she is and just wants to be a part of something. At least she is trying to cheer. It is your job to help her to the best of your ability and let her do what she can.  
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by cowboy (PM , CC ) on Saturday June 21, 2008 @ 12:52 PM




Hoping you and your have a great weekend..Did "your girls" do well in their "pyramid"? Take care and will catch you later,  
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by ANONYMOUS ONE (AO) (PM , CC ) on Saturday June 21, 2008 @ 1:31 PM




 
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by Heide (PM , CC ) on Saturday June 21, 2008 @ 4:44 PM




ATTENTION SECRET: You are hereby summoned to Heliotrope this Friday, June 27. (OK...I guess you can bring Mr. Randy too) See Monday's post at The Dog House for further instructions. T  
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by Biggie T (PM , CC ) on Monday June 23, 2008 @ 3:37 AM




Having been a mom to a special needs child, my son, I know it's frustrating for others to know how to handle them! I also know that as a parent, you are still trying to figure things out yourself! I'll tell you one thing, despite the pains in the asses they can be...it is also an opportunity for growth spiritually and emotionally! It's wonderful of you to take her on as we parents just want our kids to experience some semblance of normalcy! My son was on a "challenger" baseball team as a kid...a hodge podge of different various physical and mental situations....these kids were a blessing for the coaches and for the children who in the eyes of most people were "normal" who helped their peers move around on the field. It's a win win but yes, I DO know how hard it in to synthesize them into "the group"..

And as a dance teacher and preschool teacher that had special needs children come her way over the years I know what it's like to try to incorporate them into your classes, be it dancing or academics. But looking back, I wouldn't trade those experiences in....

My son...just a few weeks ago, graduated with honors from high school... but there were some days when I didn't think he'd see his 8th birthday! Now he is a loveable, loving, kind, easy going young man who does not let his circumstances stand in his way. I used to think WHY GOD and all that crap when he was first diagnosed...

Now I say..."Now I know WHY God!" He made me a better mom and person and he made his sisters more empathetic.

I just spent 10 mins reading all about the syndrome. Fascinating. Have you read about it? Anything in there you can use? Have you talked to any special needs teachers for some pointers?

~r~ Hope this made sense, I'm about to drop...this niteowl is calling it a nite!
 
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by Rubble (PM , CC ) on Monday June 23, 2008 @ 5:04 AM




Hi WP. I don't think mom is actually pushing her as she wants to do this. It's just over her head.

Thanks
 
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by Secret (PM , CC ) on Monday June 23, 2008 @ 10:33 AM




Yes, cowboy, patience is the key. I'm doing all I can to help her. The problem is that I cannot spend the practice time soley with her & that's what she needs. This is why her mother must be there.

Thanks for stopping by!
 
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by Secret (PM , CC ) on Monday June 23, 2008 @ 10:35 AM




The weekend was good, AO. My girls did really well Thursday & I'm proud of them. We start practice this evening twice a week so....

Hope you're doing great!
 
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by Secret (PM , CC ) on Monday June 23, 2008 @ 10:37 AM




Thanks for the beautiful pic, heide. That looks like a great place to visit!

Have a good week
 
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by Secret (PM , CC ) on Monday June 23, 2008 @ 10:38 AM




Hiya T! I'll be over to see what's up  
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by Secret (PM , CC ) on Monday June 23, 2008 @ 10:39 AM




Hi Rubble. Thanks for your words of wisdom & know they are greatly appreciated. She's not a 'pain in the ass', like you were saying. She's really sweet. My fear is that she'll get hit, kicked, or knock someone down. She won't stay away from the others while doing their routine. I've tried to explain to her that she must stay in her place & not right up next to another as she will get hurt. They won't mean to, but is doing the kicks & arm movements, one can get hurt if too close.
I talked to a teacher who had her & she said "I'll pray for you". Evidently, she's been a real hand-full in class too for 3 years.
All I can do is the best I can do. I think we'll all be in a learning process this year.

Thanks girl!
 
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by Secret (PM , CC ) on Monday June 23, 2008 @ 10:58 AM




Doing well, thanks! Hey, yesterday I was in the middle of a comment to you when I got distracted, hit the wrong button CANCEL and then I was off on some other important Rubble mission...

In a comment the night before...like 4am I said or refered to special needs kids (MINE INCLUDED!!!! When he was younger) as pains in asses. Let me now clarify....well, sometimes they CAN BE but that was harsh! What is written in the wee hours should sometimes STAY in the wee hours!! But yes, take it from a mom of one, they can be frustrating, aggravating, confusing, alarming etc...the list goes on and on! And for most of us, they didn't come with a how to raise them manual and MOST of the time, surprisingly, teachers and drs. are JUST AS MUCH in the dark!

As a dance and preschool teacher, when one would come my way (cerebral palsy, deaf, Downs, Autistic etc...) I found some things very frustrating...not so much the child as the attitude of the parents (some were in denial, some just weren't that helpful) and the lack of help I got from the "outside" with teachers, fellow teachers, my preschool boss etc... More often than not I got a "GOOD LUCK"

So I muddled through, made mistakes, learned on my OWN what would work and what was a dismal failure (much like with my son!)

Thankfully my son grew out of many of his eccentric little idiosyncracies and in fact went on to grad. this year with honors (albeit not like honors in honors classes, but it's all relative, HIS classes were just as hard for HIM as honors classes are for gifted kids!) And now he's just a calm, happy go lucky, creative young man who isn't any problem for me anymore behaviorally.

Just wanted to get that off my chest. I didn't mean to sound rude or heartless! I guess it's like if your black you can use the N word...if you are Jewish you can joke about being Jewish and no one bats an eye...if you are a parent to a special needs child you can call them pains in the asses! It comes from a place of love!

~r~
 
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by Rubble (PM , CC ) on Tuesday June 24, 2008 @ 12:52 PM




I knew exactly what you meant, m, but thanks for clarifying. You're right about parents being in denial. Her mother was brought in the 2nd day of try-outs to show her that her daughter wasn't doing or able to do what was needed. She didn't see it. We didn't understand how she couldn't when all of the other girls were learning & doing the routine, & she is just standing there doing nothing. I'm just thankful I didn't have to make that decision.

I'm sure my posts sounds bad, but I don't mean for them to. I guess I'm venting & trying to figure this out in my own mind as to how to deal. It's a day-to-day venture with lots of trial & error.

Anyhoo, have a great day!!
 
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by Secret (PM , CC ) on Tuesday June 24, 2008 @ 1:03 PM




Hell..if you are a PARENT you can call YOUR OWN KID(S) pains in the asses!

God knows what they are calling US behind our backs under our noses!

 
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by Rubble (PM , CC ) on Tuesday June 24, 2008 @ 1:05 PM




I'd be afraid to know... I'm know they do tho. It's part of being a teenager, unfortunately.  
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by Secret (PM , CC ) on Tuesday June 24, 2008 @ 1:06 PM


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

   
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