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 Crabby Old Man
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When an old man died in the geriatric ward of a small hospital near Tampa, Florida, it was believed that he had nothing left of any value.

Later, when the nurses were going through his meager possessions, they found this poem. Its quality and content so impressed the staff that copies were made and distributed to every nurse in the hospital.

One nurse took her copy to Missouri The old man's sole bequest to posterity has since appeared in the Christmas edition of the News Magazine of the St. Louis Association for Mental Health. A slide presentation has also been made based on his simple, but eloquent poem.

And this little old man, with nothing left to give to the world is now the author of this 'anonymous' poem winging across the Internet.

Crabby Old Man

What do you see nurses? .What do you see?
What are you thinking.....when you're looking at me?
A crabby old man, ...not very wise,
Uncertain of habit ......with faraway eyes?

Who dribbles his food.......and makes no reply.
When you say in a loud voice.....'I do wish you'd try!'
Who seems not to notice ..the things that you do.
And forever is losing .......... A sock or a shoe?

Who, resisting or not...........lets you do as you will,
With bathing and feeding .... the long day to fill?
Is that what you're thinking? Is that what you see?
Then open your eyes, nurse......you're not looking at me.

I'll tell you who I am .......... As I sit here so still,
As I do what you're bidding, ....as I eat at your will.
I'm a small child of ten.......with a father and mother,
Brothers and sisters ........who love one another.

A young boy of sixteen ..with wings on his feet
Dreaming that soon now. .......a lover he'll meet.
A groom soon at twenty .....my heart gives a leap.
Remembering, the vows......that I promised to keep.

At twenty-five, now ......... I have young of my own.
Who need me to guide .... and a secure happy home.
A man of thirty ........ my young now grown fast,
Bound to each other ........ with ties that should last.

At forty, my young sons ...have grown and are gone,
But my woman's beside me.......to see I don't mourn.
At fifty, once more, ........ babies play 'round my knee,
Again, we know children ...... my loved one and me.

Dark days are upon me ............. my wife is now dead.
I look at the future ...............I shudder with dread.
For my young are all rearing......young of their own.
And I think of the years... and the love that I've known.

I'm now an old man.........and nature is cruel.
'Tis jest to make old age ....look like a fool.
The body, it crumbles..........grace and vigor, depart.
There is now a stone........where I once had a heart.

But inside this old carcase ...... a young guy still dwells,
And now and again ......my battered heart swells
I remember the joys........... I remember the pain.
And I'm loving and living.............life over again.

I think of the years .all too few......gone too fast.
And accept the stark fact........that nothing can last.
So open your eyes, people ..........open and see..
Not a crabby old man. Look closer....see........ME!!


Remember this poem when you next meet an older person who you might brush aside without looking at the young soul within.....we will all, one day, be there, too!

The best and most beautiful things of this world can't be seen or touched. They must be felt by the heart.

GOD BLESS !!! Hope you all have a great weekend!
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This was absolutely beautiful, Secret.....thank-you for sharing it with us!

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by Celtic Mist (PM , CC ) on Friday June 6, 2008 @ 12:52 PM




I respect and defer to the elderly...ALWAYS....BC  
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by BigChris (PM , CC ) on Friday June 6, 2008 @ 1:20 PM




I thought so too, CM. It really makes you think. Hopefully, anyone who is lucky enough to read this man's feeling, will think twice when they encounter an old person.

Have a great weekend!
 
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by Secret (PM , CC ) on Friday June 6, 2008 @ 1:59 PM




Good for you, Chris. Ya know, somehow I actually expected that from you.  
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by Secret (PM , CC ) on Friday June 6, 2008 @ 2:10 PM




I loved your last line.. cant be seen but felt by the heart! So very true Secret!

The birds have all come back to our yard too. We love them. The hummers have been a bit slower in their return but I am seeing them more often as the weather heats up. Patience my dear... they will return.

Bear Hugs!
PolarB ;)
 
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by PolarB (PM , CC ) on Friday June 6, 2008 @ 3:44 PM




Hiya Polar!

I thot it was an "educational" poem he wrote. The heart really does speak with we listen....

I wonder if that's the case with my hummingbirds? I hope they show up. Glad yours are so at least someone can enjoy them!

Have a great weekend, PB
 
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by Secret (PM , CC ) on Friday June 6, 2008 @ 4:12 PM




Hey Miss Secret!

My instructor gave that poem to the class when I took Nurse Aide Training.

I learned a lot during my clinicals. A nursing home can be a very sad place. The residents are often forgotten by family and friends. And of course sometimes the staff just doesnt care. But those folks still have a lot left in them and I walked away everyday with some new piece of knowledge.

Have a great weekend!
 
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by Ghost Bride (PM , CC ) on Sunday June 8, 2008 @ 3:53 AM




I love all the 'critters' that roam my neighborhood...especially the squirrels...they love to go from yard to yard and play. The birds are really nice too, although I did just find out that I have a family of them that just took up residency in my ferns on the porch!!  
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by Bry_M (PM , CC ) on Sunday June 8, 2008 @ 9:55 PM




Secret,

this is a very important message - people are not their age or disability or disease!

ron
 
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by AZRON (PM , CC ) on Sunday June 8, 2008 @ 10:31 PM




I just read the poem you posted about the crabby old man. I hope many people read that and pass it along to everyone they know. I view the elderly population with the greatest respect. The poem made me think of my wonderful Daddy. I lost him nearly 3 years ago. He passed away, at home surrounded by all of his family, the day after my birthday. He had suffered various medical problems in the 13 years prior to his passing. During many of his hospitalizations in those 13 years, I found that even the most well meaning nurses have a tendency to treat older people without respect. Many are trying to be sweet, but I hated seeing my father treated like a baby. He was the strongest, bravest and most wonderful man I have ever known. It is sad, mainly for the people who had the priviledge to care for him, that they did not see who he was beneath the surface. He had so much to share with the world and I know that some of his caretakers did, in fact, take the time to know him as a man. Those people will be forever in my heart as they carry a piece of my Daddy in their heart. I'm 38 years old and, while most people use father or dad, he is Daddy to me now and always. I am so grateful to have been by his side at home for his last weeks. It was heartbreaking to see him lose the ability to do the smallest thing for himself, but he was cared for with dignity and respect by our family and the Hospice nurses and workers. I was not involved in much of his actual medical care (although I do have the background). My sister handled a lot of that. The relationship I had with him was one of respect and I know he cherished, to the very end, having me be just his little girl. I also know he cherished the role my dear sister played in his care. No expense was spared in his comfort and quality of life. At the time of his last breath, he was surrounded by all of the people in his life that loved and cherished him. I so wish that more people could be able to pass with the dignity given to him. As that is not the case, that poem will help to make people aware that under age and illness, there is a whole, vibrant human being with a desire to be known for who they were throughout their time spent on this earth.

If you wouldn't mind, I would love it if you could e-mail me a copy of that poem. I would love to share it with others. My e-mail is anna.opal1203@comcast.net.

Thanks and have a good day.
 
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by childrenfirst9396 (PM , CC ) on Thursday June 12, 2008 @ 1:28 PM




Hiya PollyWollyDoodleAllDay!

That's a great thing to be giving to Nurses & Aides in training. They NEED to know this & take it to heart.

The ones who are left alone by their family/friends have no one else except for the staff. I sure hope they're treated right.

Thanks P!
 
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by Secret (PM , CC ) on Thursday June 12, 2008 @ 1:41 PM




Hi Bry. Watching the squirrels is fun, but they get annoying at times too when there are so many & they destroy my feeders! I don't have any nests ON my house - yet.

Thanks for coming by!
 
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by Secret (PM , CC ) on Thursday June 12, 2008 @ 1:42 PM




You are so right, Ron!  
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by Secret (PM , CC ) on Thursday June 12, 2008 @ 1:43 PM




Hi childrenfirst & welcome to my blog. I did shoot you an email of that poem so I hope it got there....

Your daddy was very lucky to have all of you around him. YOU all were very lucky too to have such a wonderful loving daddy. Mine was/is "daddy" to me too. I was always "daddy's little girl" even in to my adult years. I was with him when he passed June '92. I still miss him so much.

Treating our loved ones with respect is very important no matter what their age.

Thanks for coming by
 
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by Secret (PM , CC ) on Thursday June 12, 2008 @ 1:46 PM




Secret:

I love the poem. It is worth remembering.
 
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by Whit's Whittlings (PM , CC ) on Tuesday June 17, 2008 @ 1:05 PM




Me too, Whit. It really does make one think!

Thanks for stopping by & have a great day
 
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by Secret (PM , CC ) on Tuesday June 17, 2008 @ 1:11 PM




Secret,
We, all of us, do get old. My wife sometimes says, "Joe, you act like a damn kid!". When we get to my age, we do revert back. whenever I try to do something I use to do, I usually end up in great pain. The fact is, I can remember things that happened long ago, childhood comes clear, but I'll be damned if I can remember what I went out to the garage for! I suppose it's the beginning of something dreadful, I don't know.
No one can know the frustration of not being able to do the things you use to do. I can't imagine ole "Crabby's" total frustration. I'd be crabby too! So, here's a song:

I use to drink a lot, I use to drink a lot, and do the Boogalu.
If I tried that now, I'd shake apart, and lose a lung or two.
But, if I can't dance I might as well roll over and die!
So I act like I can, so people will know I'm still alive!

Yahoo! Life is good
Joe
 
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by joesblog6 (PM , CC ) on Thursday June 26, 2008 @ 1:09 PM




Hi Joe. It's funny how the mind works at times. Sometimes I can't remember what I had for lunch!

I love your poem - especially "So I act like I can, so people will know I'm still alive!"
 
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by Secret (PM , CC ) on Thursday June 26, 2008 @ 1:34 PM




Secret,
Diane thinks I have too much on my mind, and I
sometimes can't distinguish betwee them. I think
a lot of people today are like that.

Excuse me, I have two Dogs wrestling in my computer
room, and there isn't enough room for that so I'm
gonna have to chew some asses and settle them down!
"Hey! Annie, Pongo, knock it off!"

Anyway, where was I, what was I saying, who am I!
Oh, I'm Joe
 
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by joesblog6 (PM , CC ) on Friday June 27, 2008 @ 8:56 AM


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

   
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