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 A Pregnant MAN ?!?
 





AN obstetrician has declared the pregnancy of transgender man Thomas Beatie "normal" and says the baby he is carrying his healthy.

As Mr Beatie and his wife appeared on Oprah this morning, his doctor gave the first medical confirmation of the pregnancy, which has made headlines around the world.

Mr Beatie told TV host Oprah Winfrey he always wanted to have a child and considered his situation a miracle.

"It's not a male or female desire to have a child. It's a human desire," the thinly bearded dad-to-be said.

"I have a very stable male identity."

Pregnancy neither defined him nor made him feel feminine, he said.

Insemination:

Mr Beatie, 34, who lives in Oregon, was born a woman but decided to become a man 10 years ago. He began taking testosterone treatments and had breast surgery to remove glands and flatten his chest.

"I opted not to do anything with my reproductive organs because I wanted to have a child one day," he told Oprah. Mr Beatie's wife Nancy said she inseminated him with a syringe using sperm purchased from a bank.

Now six months pregnant, he said his size 32 jeans were getting a bit tight and his shirts were a bit stretched.

Nancy, to whom he has been married for five years and who has two grown daughters from a previous marriage, said the couple's roles would not change once the baby was born.

"He's going to be the father and I'm going to be the mother," she said. Their marriage is legal and he is recognised under state law as a man.

Daddy's little princess:

The couple was shown on video provided by People magazine, which collaborated with Oprah on the show, showing the room that will be the baby's nursery. Mr Beatie said the little girl was going to be "daddy's little princess".

The couple was also filmed in their hometown of Bend, Oregon, where he underwent an ultrasound showing the baby in his womb.

"I can't believe it. I can't believe she's inside me," Mr Beatie said while watching the ultrasound image. "We see her as our little miracle."

Normal pregnancy:

His obstetrician, Dr Kimberly James, who practices in the Oregon town, told Oprah: "This is a normal pregnancy."

She said Mr Beatie stopped taking testosterone two years ago and his levels of the hormone were normal.

"This baby is totally healthy," she said. "This is what I consider a normal pregnancy."

The couple said they had been turned down by a number of other doctors before Dr James agreed to take him as a patient.

The couple said an earlier attempt at pregnancy failed when he developed a tubal pregnancy, resulting in surgery.

The couple, who run a small business in Bend, said they decided to go public with the pregnancy because they wanted to control the way the news got out.

Hiding away:

"We're just going to have the baby now," Nancy said. "If we have to, we'll go hide."

She said the couple had some savings, while Mr Beatie is working on a book about his childhood, his mother's suicide and his life growing in Hawaii where, as a girl, he was a teen beauty pageant contestant and earned a martial arts black belt.

Oprah called the development "a new definition of what diversity means for everybody."

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The decision of Mr Beatie to have a child as a 34-year-old "transgender male" was criticised by some as "playing with fire", while others dismissed the photo as a hoax.



But this latest picture shows Mr Beatie as a muscular woman before his sex change, happily posing with his girlfriend Nancy in a skimpy bikini in 2000.

The second shows the couple in a wedding-style photograph taken in Honolulu in 2002.

In a first person piece entitled Labour of Love and published in The Advocate, a magazine with a lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender readership, Mr Beatie says his decision to have a child "has been met with discrimination and outright derision by health care professionals".

Even his own family members questioned him.

According to his article, Mr Beatie went through a sex change but decided to have only chest reconstruction and testosterone therapy, stopping short of making any changes to the reproductive organs he was born with.

Mr Beatie is legally male and lives with his wife, 46, in Bend, Oregon.

The couple, who have been together 10 years, wanted to have children.

Mrs Beatie, however, was unable to conceive, having suffered severe endometriosis and undergone a hysterectomy, her husband writes.

So they decided Mr Beatie should try to carry a baby.

He stopped his bimonthly hormone injections and had his first period in eight years, he writes.

After a year - and nine doctors - he was able to get pregnant using frozen donor sperm but the pregnancy was ectopic and required surgery.

A second pregnancy, however, was successful and the couple's daughter is due on July 3, the article states.

Mr Beatie describes the process as a challenge, listing the reactions they received to a situation that "sparks legal, political and social unknowns".

The first doctor they approached "told me to shave my facial hair", Mr Beatie writes.

Others turned them away or referred them to a psychologist.

"Receptionists have laughed at us. Friends and family have been unsupportive; most of Nancy's family doesn't even know I'm transgender".

"How does it feel to be a pregnant man?" Mr Beatie writes in the article.

"Incredible. Despite the fact that my belly is growing with a new life inside me, I am stable and confident being the man that I am.

"In a technical sense I see myself as my own surrogate, though my gender identity as male is constant. To Nancy, I am her husband carrying our child.

"I will be my daughter's father, and Nancy will be her mother. We will be a family."

Media in Hawaii reported that before Mr Beatie became a man, he was a woman called Tracy Langondino.

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What is this poor child going to think?!? Daddy? Mommy?

Scott/Randy420 says he has a man-gina & they used a turkey baster...

Makes me think of the song "I'm My Own Grandpa"....
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 A little trivia
 

Three men went on a business trip & went to a local hotel for a room for the night. The cost was $30. Each man paid $10.

When the manager came in, he noticed that this should be the business rate of $25. He gave $5 to the bellboy to take to the 3 men for a refund.

Well, the bellboy decided that the men can't divide the $5, so he gave them each $1 & kept the other $2 for himself.

Now for the trivia part:

The men paid $10 each, but were given $1 back to make $9 each. 9 x 3 = 27
The bellboy kept $2
27 + 2 = 29

Where is the other $1 ???
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 Our Weekend Tournament
 

We hosted a tournament this weekend for the varsity & Jr varsity softball teams. This was our big fundraiser for the softball program so all parents had to bring supplies for the coaches, umps, etc in the hospitality tent, & to sell with our boston butts. It was yummy & we did really well too!

We had 2 games Friday - one at 4:00 (which we won!), & the other at 8:00 (which we also won!). The jr varsity didn't play any on Friday.

Our first game Saturday morning was at 11:00, but I had to pick up some more items at the store, so I went early & headed back to the field by 9:00am. There was a chance for storms all weekend, but I just kept praying for no rain. So far so good. After winning our 11:00 game, this put us in 1st place for the tournament - so far, with a 3-0 rating. I had to work concession at 1:30 for awhile as we all had to give some of our time to make this work. We watched some of the jr varsity games too while waiting on our championship game at 5:00.

The clouds started rolling in, but so far, the rain had held off. Once we got started good on the big game, the drops started to fall. All at once, a deluge came & hit us before we even knew it was here! Everyone scrambled to get under some shelter. The umps had the girls come off the field. Then came some lightning. That meant a delay in the game. Just as we got back on the field again & started playing, lightning struck again - 30 minute delay. Every time there's a strike, the 30 minutes starts over. This went on for nearly an hour until they decided to delay this game & play it over our spring break (in about 3 weeks). The jr varsity still had 2 more games to play too, but they were also delayed until spring break.

I got home a bit after 7:00pm & realized that I had gotten more sun than I realized. The top of my head, face, neck & arms were all sunburned. I hope my head doesn't peel as it'll look like I have dandruff! I was wet, muddy & tired too. It was going to be an early night to bed. I could hear the nasty storm outside too. I didn't think it would every stop!

Sunday, I managed to get all 5 loads of my laundry finished (didn't do any all week!). After that I just laid my butt on the couch to watch some movies & rest. I even managed to nap for a bit too! It sure felt good cuz I was totally worn out. I got up to get dinner started & waited for the kiddos to come home. Overall, it was a very nice weekend!

Hope you all had a good weekend, & have a great week too!!
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 An Old Farmer's Advice: Great Sayings
 

Sounds like growing up with the sayings my Momma quoted every day.

* Your fences need to be horse-high, pig-tight and bull-strong.

* Keep skunks and bankers and lawyers at a distance.

* Life is simpler when you plow around the stump.

* A bumble bee is considerably faster than a John Deere tractor.

* Words that soak into your ears are whispered...not yelled.

* Meanness don't jes' happen overnight.

* Forgive your enemies. It messes up their heads.

* Do not corner something that you know is meaner than you.

* It don't take a very big person to carry a grudge.

* You cannot unsay a cruel word.

* Every path has a few puddles.

* When you wallow with pigs, expect to get dirty.

* The best sermons are lived, not preached.

* Most of the stuff people worry about ain't never gonna happen anyway.

* Don't judge folks by their relatives.

* Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.

* Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you'll enjoy it a second time.

* Don't interfere with somethin' that ain't botherin' you none.

* Timing has a lot to do with the outcome of a rain dance.

* If you find yourself in a hole, the first thing to do is stop diggin'.

* Sometimes you get, and sometimes you get got.

* The biggest troublemaker you'll probably ever have to deal with, watches you from the mirror every mornin'.

* Always drink upstream from the herd.

* Good judgment comes from experience, and a lotta that comes from bad judgment.

* Lettin' the cat outta the bag is a whole lot easier than puttin' it back in.

* If you get to thinkin' you're a person of some influence, try orderin' somebody else's dog around.

* Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly. Leave the rest to God
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 The Weekend
 

I hope everyone had a wonderful Easter. It came quite early this year, but that won't happen again for another 200 years. It was a beautiful sunny day, although a bit cool. Lulu had fun hunting eggs, & then hiding them for me. We did this Saturday afternoon for a bit.

I ended up canceling on the Cullman softball trip with Tay because Lulu had her own softball stuff Friday & Saturday too. I had taken Friday off from work already, so I still took my vacation day. I had SO much to get done Friday anyway (oil chg, take Lulu to a b'day party, then her softball stuff). Tay's dad & step-mom were going, so that was good. I let B go with them. I kept in touch with B & the step-mom through the tournament so I could keep up with how they were doing. She said they did really well! There were a LOT of teams playing so the days were long. They won both of their games on Friday evening/night, but lost the one Saturday morning to a team ranked 4th in the state. They think they should have beat them. The noon game went really well. Tay played 3rd base this game. They had their fielding down, & their bats were hitting. Then they played at 4:30 (which ended up starting 45 minutes late). If they had won this game, they would have gone on to the finals, but they just couldn't get it together. They returned home Sat night with a 3-2 record. They placed 3rd overall in the tournament. I SO wish I could've been there to see these games, but....

Lulu & I had a very busy Friday. We went to get the oil changed in the Pacifica Friday morning, then on to the mall to change out B & Tay's cell phones. We went around to find a b-day present for her friend because she was going to the party from 2-4. After that, we rushed up to pick up Scott before heading to her softball ceremony.

Once we got to the field, there were SO many people/kids there! Every player for their T-ball, baseball, & softball teams were there - along with parents, etc. The kids went out on the field & were introduced by teams/ages. Then they began their "fun day" program. There were booths set up all over the complex for the kids to participate & win prizes (think cheap toys that will end up in the garbage real fast! ) We had to provide drinks & stuff for the concession & ended up eating our dinner there. We had BBQ, beans, corn, chips & tea. Scott got some greens & cornbread & then we both ate between the 2 plates. It was pretty good.

Saturday morning we were right back at the field for their first game. We started off doing pretty well & we got first bat. Most of our girls can hit pretty well. Then it came our time in the field. We didn't do so hot there at first. We have been practicing with a regular softball. They were using some yellow ball that LOOKED like a regular softball, except that it was rubbery & it BOUNCED - all the time & everywhere! Our girls were thrown off by this, but we just dealt with it. We ended up losing by 3 points, but they still had fun. That's what really matters. We have another game tomorrow night. At least we know what to expect from the bouncing ball! We will get one of those to practice with later in the week.

The kiddos spent Easter with their dad, so it was only Scott & I at home. We rented "American Gangster" (Denzel Washington) & "The Brave One" (Jodie Foster). Both of those are graphic, but GREAT movies!!

Today, the body shop man brought my van back repaired. Tonight, after Tay's game, I'll have to come back up here to work & let B drive it home. Now we'll be back to having two vehicles. That'll sure help me!

Hope you all have a wonderful week!!
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